I have been umming and arring about writing this post for a while, but I feel like now is the time to do so. I want to throw it out there that I AM FAT AND IN IT FOR THE FASHION.
Over the passing months, body politics has started to become a more prominent issue. Whether that be the media hating on fat people, the media hating on skinny people, fat people hating on skinny people, skinny people hating on fat people, 'average' sized people hating on either extreme etc, etc, etc. Regardless of who it comes from, it is a vicious cycle. I am so sick of seeing people digging through the remnants of every statement made to find something possibly offensive written within it. We do not need to make an issue out of every word ever written on weight, every picture ever posted of someone looking large or small - yes we need to fight for body positivity, but why can't that fight be supporting one another? Raising one another's confidence and self esteem rather than spending time tearing someone else down for wording something maybe not as they should have or posting something a little ill thought out.
Why can we not focus on complimenting and encouraging one another as a way to promote and instil body positivity? Whether you are fat, thin, in between, short, tall, black, white, Asian, whatever! You deserve to feel good about yourself! Rather than zoning in on any statement regarding weight and turning it on its head to claim it is offensive to someone, use your energy telling a friend they look ace in their new outfit, or telling a stranger you like their hair! Random acts of kindness are far more likely to change the world than hate and aggression.
Please don't mistake what I'm saying for complacency. If someone is consistently out of line, they should be tackled about that, but people should not be bullied and torn down based on one mistake. Debate is healthy, tackling opinions that differ to your own in a positive way is healthy, trying to educate people on the power of body positivity is healthy BUT no good can come from bullying or constantly searching for something to get on ones high horse about. We all have bad days, we are all guilty of saying something unnecessary and nasty about someone, we are all affected by things differently and sometimes we can't help but be upset by awkward mistakes people have made but we see enough sadness and deal with enough sadness personally everyday that we need to start creating reasons for people to see happiness and we are only human, PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES. We don't need to create any more reasons for people to be miserable. As cheesy and cliché as it sounds, a smile is worth a thousand words.
I am fat and I got involved in blogging and Instagram etc because I fucking love fashion. I love clothes and trends and expressing myself with my outfit choices. If I see someone online, or in the street that I think looks good for whatever reason REGARDLESS of their body type, I will tell them and social media and blogging has just aided that for me. I think what I'm getting at is that I have tried my best to stay out of any spats involving body politics because I frankly, don't have the energy to waste on negativity. I don't care what your body type is, if you look great, you look great, size has nothing to do with that and we should not be making more issues for ourselves where the issue of size is concerned, not everyone is out to get us based on our body type. If someone upsets you, address it and move on, hanging on to grudges isn't good for the soul. We don't have to be on the defensive all the time. Be positive, enjoy fashion, enjoy your body, encourage others to do the same but above all be positive and be kind, you never know whose day or life you might change for the better with a kind word. A negative word has never done anything close to that and never will.
Lots Of Love,